Joined: 02 Jun 2007
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Location: I come from a land downunder
A puzzle
Once again I sit here puzzling over why....why do people say one thing in a relationship, then do another. Or mean something else. I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination (and my imagination can stretch pretty damn far lol) but this question is something I didn't get when I was a child, and I still don't get it to this day as a mature woman. Again I let myself be vulnerable and again I have been kicked in the teeth, simply because I took someone's words at face value and yet it seems they meant almost the total opposite. Yet I'm not totally naive because I long ago decided that communication, at all costs, was the answer. And yet you talk and talk and talk with someone but it turns out what they said was a twisted version of what they actually wanted or felt or thought.
What is the point of being untruthful? Deceptions of any kind, even those we inflict upon ourselves, will eventually find a way to be seen or heard for what they are And something that could have been dealt with, one way or the other, in the beginning with minimal harm to either party ends up leaving at least one (and I suspect probably both) of you feeling bruised and trampled on. I'm still walking and talking and certainly wont let this define who I am but right now that five year old who could not understand why someone would be your friend and then disapear at the first better offer, is looking out through my 58 year old eyes and still asking...WHY? _________________ Be yourself.............everybody else is taken!
Sat Jul 09, 2011 12:12 am
Outdoors65
Joined: 12 Aug 2009
Posts: 282
Location: Anywhere Outside
I hope you find answers. And when you do, please let the rest of us know. _________________ Outdoors
Sat Jul 09, 2011 12:40 am
wishonastar
Joined: 23 Jan 2007
Posts: 967
Location: Where I belong
((((((((((((Noni))))))))))))))
Well said woman!!! Can I show this to someone who has done the same thing to me recently?
I am tired of "I want open and honest communication" then weeks later and after being told various forms of "I love you so much, lets set a date" I hear "Well we've been having problems but I didn't know who to tell you." WTF???
Women, Can't live with them and it's illegal to kill them...
Hugs,
Star _________________ I'm not ready to let go
Cause then I'd never know
What I could be missing
But I’m missing way too much
So when do I give up, what I’ve been wishing for.
Down - Jason Woods
Sat Jul 09, 2011 1:53 am
Xalia1 Moderators
Joined: 05 May 2004
Posts: 3702
Location: In love
Noni,
I'm sorry chickie. Sometimes people just don't know how to be honest with themselves, much less someone else. They tell you what they think you want to hear, and then turn around and realize that isn't what they actually want. Its not fair. And you don't deserve to be treated as anything but an amazing woman.
You will find that special someone, I just know it. And when you do, they will realize what a fantastic and rare jewel they have with you. And she better treat you right...or you'll find me on a plane
Hella hugs to you chickie, I'm here if you need me.
Xalia _________________ Nobody said life would be easy...They just promised it would be worth it.
~♥♥~
~The words fail me.. because what I feel for you is beyond description...~
Sat Jul 09, 2011 2:27 am
aidyl
Joined: 11 Nov 2007
Posts: 173
Location: Trinidad
MG
I thinks sometimes people are afraid to hurt the other person in their life so they try to convince themselves that 'yes i love you', 'yes i want to be with you' when deep in their own hearts they have doubts. They are cowards, afraid of simple honesty. I guess we are all cowards at some time, when reality is too painful to look at.
I hope you find someone who will be as honest with you as you are with her. I don't know you personally but what i see of you through your writing tells me you have a kind and loving heart. So I wish you well, MG.
Sun Nov 27, 2011 2:11 pm
PipSqueak
Joined: 04 Jul 2008
Posts: 987
Location: S.W. England
Oh MG! I'm sorry I've not been around. I don't know why.
(Mind you I'd avoid anyone born between Feb 20nd & March 22nd as we Pisces are not the most decisive of folk, completely unintentionally)
Huge hugs
Pip _________________ .............................................................
Previously PurpleUK
Tue Nov 29, 2011 9:19 pm
MysteryGirl Moderators
Joined: 02 Jun 2007
Posts: 3419
Location: I come from a land downunder
TY both Aidyl and Pip. Its all OK, this was some months ago and I wasnt particuarly badly impacted just, as the header suggests, puzzled about why someone would say one thing and mean another. I mean, hell, life is complicated enough when we tell the truth LOL.
And Pip, Im ignoring your comment about Pisceans cause well there is a pretty damn nice one in my life at the moment LOL. We Librans know all about indecisiveness!
HugZ, MG _________________ Be yourself.............everybody else is taken!
Tue Nov 29, 2011 11:48 pm
IB6UB9
Joined: 03 Oct 2006
Posts: 65
Location: midwest...USA
Say what you mean~ mean what you say
Mon Dec 05, 2011 2:18 am
Tracey
Joined: 30 Dec 2005
Posts: 1489
Location: Ayr, Scotland
[quote=" We Librans know all about indecisiveness!
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as a fellow libran! i used to be indecisive but now i'm not so sure????
*hugs*
Tracey xx _________________ I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.
sometimes i wonder... ' why is that frisbee getting bigger'... and then it hits me
Mon Dec 05, 2011 8:57 am
MysteryGirl Moderators
Joined: 02 Jun 2007
Posts: 3419
Location: I come from a land downunder
LOL I was hunting for the 'like' button on that one Tracey.
Hey IB6, long time,no see!
HugZ, MG _________________ Be yourself.............everybody else is taken!
Mon Dec 05, 2011 9:30 am
Eilidh Moderators
Joined: 09 Apr 2005
Posts: 1880
I keep reading "Libran" as "Librarian." Clearly I need to get my head out of the books!
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