i am just coming out as a bisexual and want to have lesbian sex with someone but i dont know how to find someone. how do i go about doing so?
Tue Jan 22, 2008 8:26 pm
Hawaiian
Joined: 01 Dec 2005
Posts: 816
Location: Transplanted to Africa
Hi becca,
I don't really understand what you are asking about.
Are you looking to hook up? A little experiment? For that I would try a dating site or perhaps Craigslist in your area or a club? Trolling for sex isn't allowed here.
Are you asking where lesbians are? Well, we are everywhere.
~Hawn _________________ 'A'a i ka hula, e waiho i ka hilahila i ka hale.
Dare to dance, leave your shyness at home.
Tue Jan 22, 2008 8:40 pm
mechabecca
Joined: 22 Jan 2008
Posts: 2
Location: Virginia
i am asking how to find someone to just have sex with. i'm just coming out and dont know anyone else who's a lesbian, so i want to know how to find someone.
Wed Jan 23, 2008 1:20 am
Hawaiian
Joined: 01 Dec 2005
Posts: 816
Location: Transplanted to Africa
I am not sure what just coming out has to do with what you are asking. One can be in the closet for a long time and only look for casual sex.
Again, I suggest that you go to places (like a club or a bar) or post at places (like Craigslist or a dating site) where you will find all kinds of people interested in just having sex. You do it virtually the same as you would find casual het sex, you go to a place where people looking for just sex go. I don't know what more to tell you. Just that mels isn't that place.
Please read the rules and do not troll for sex here.
~Hawn _________________ 'A'a i ka hula, e waiho i ka hilahila i ka hale.
Dare to dance, leave your shyness at home.
Wed Jan 23, 2008 4:58 pm
storybellz
Joined: 15 Dec 2006
Posts: 241
Location: U.S.A
quote:Originally posted by Hawaiian:
I am not sure what just coming out has to do with what you are asking...
Just a thought (i hope you don't mind)...
About what that other lady's question has to do w/ comming out, well i think maybe since she's a newly "out" person, it may be somewhat difficult for her to take a chance by asking that very intimate question to just anyone. So she came to a place where she felt like she didn't have to be so shy.
Because, when you are somebody who has only recently "came out", chances are that you don't have many friends "in-the-know" yet. Thus, you certainly wouldn't ask just anyone a sex question, esp. if hardly anyone is aware of your sexuality.
Anyway, i agree w/ your advise about her getting on dating sites and the club-scene, cause, when someone's only looking for sex, that would be the best bet, with less chance of emotional consequences.
Thu Jan 24, 2008 4:15 am
Hawaiian
Joined: 01 Dec 2005
Posts: 816
Location: Transplanted to Africa
Ah point taken, storybellz...thanks for that.
I don't know if that fear ever does go away, newly out or 20 years out of the closet. For me it didn't, it's just easier to deal with now. But I understand now that someone at the beginning of the road may not realize that...
~Hawn _________________ 'A'a i ka hula, e waiho i ka hilahila i ka hale.
Dare to dance, leave your shyness at home.
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