Ok, I have a question for anyone that can shed some light on this issue. As I had written before, I have a new girlfriend and we are dealing with some issues. But what I want to know is it true of all lesbian relationships when you meet a new woman for it to jump right into being serious? I mean I've known this girl for just over a month. I don't believe it is enough time to really get to know a person and know you are in love and ready to commit yourself to only her. She told me she was in love with me after our first meeting. We had talked on the phone for about three weeks before actually meeting. Now when I find myself wanting to step back a little and rethink this relationship she tells me that she can't live without me and can't take another breakup of a relationship. She begs me not to leave her and I find myself holding back my real feelings because I can't stand to hear or see her cry. This concerns me more than a little. I care for her very much but I could deal with breaking up only because I see big problems in the future for us if we stay together. Yes, I would be hurt because I do care for her but I know in time I would be ok. This happened in my last relationship where my partner becomes too serious too soon and that makes me pull back. I don't want someone to "need" me. I want her to be with me because she wants to be with me. Or maybe I'm getting this love thing all wrong. Any advice?
Wed Aug 10, 2005 4:52 pm
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ahh, the ol' dating with a uhaul syndrome. Yes, it is common. I think you are wise to step back. It is way too soon to be ready to commit your life with her, and if you see problems now, just wait. I'm not saying break up, I am saying don't let her neediness push you.
Our lives and happiness are too important to go along to make someone else happy. If you need time away, take it. If it's meant to be, then it will work out. Your peace of mind is very important, don't lose you.
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Wed Aug 10, 2005 5:35 pm
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Thanks
Thanks for responding Brat. All you say is true and believe me that is what goes through my mind. I am determined to do this right for me this time.
Wed Aug 10, 2005 7:52 pm
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As Temps said, take time for you. She'll get over you eventually if you leave her, but even if she doesn't, you are what's important. Just make sure she knows from you, face to face prefferably, where she stands and how you feel. If it's over, she needs to know with no doubt in her mind that it's over.
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